This book provides great advice for those in need. Very appropriate.

I lost my husband last year and my niece bought me this book. Let me tell you, I am usually not a reader, but this book was wonderful for me. It was so helpful in educating me in telling me things that I would go through that I had no idea how to handle them. This lady who wrote the book really spoke to me and helped me so much to understand how to understand my grief. Until you loose a spouse, or a significant other, you have no idea what that person is going through. But she was writing from experience and from her heart. This is a great read for anyone who has lost that person in their life 😢

After losing my partner of 20 years to leukemia, I wasn’t sure how to proceed with carrying great grief and I’m not the type to join a group or even do 1:1 therapy. Megan Devines book, podcasts and website have helped me through a lot. She’s a trained therapist who also experienced trauma from loss of her husband which I felt was important for true empathy. I return frequently to this book for comfort.

I am a mental health therapist and wanted to read the book to get a better understanding of grief. Overall it was a good book. I enjoyed the clarification between pain and suffering, as it is something I’ve never considered. I felt author did the best she could on a very difficult topic.

I bought this book twice for two different friends who each are suffering through the shock and grief of tragic deaths in their family. Both of them told me that they found the book comforting. My friend who lost her daughter said that she felt like the author was the only person who understood how she was feeling and that the book was more helpful than the title her therapist had recommended. I also downloaded the audiobook so that I could listen to the chapter about how to support someone who is grieving, and I found it helpful as well but I imagine I could have gotten some of the same information on the internet.

It felt like I wrote this book myself as the author hit every feeling and emotion I feel/felt. It was a comforting read to realize I am not alone in my grief. I have actually read this book over and over...it's become my solace. This is the only read that has helped me since my husband passed away too young. The part of just not wanting to be here anymore was spot on. I wake up and still do at times just annoyed that I actually woke up. I just don't want to be here anymore. That doesn't mean I want to commit suicide, I just don't want to be here. It was so comforting to read that the author felt the same way. What I have learned in dealing with grief, is that if one has not experienced grief, they just don't get it...they don't realize that your heart actually physically hurts, that grief is exhausting, it sucks the life out of us and we just have to learn to live with it. There is no getting over grief. You will hear things like, "You are stuck in grief!" "You have been grieving too long" "Get over it" or this ridiculous statement that my own Mother told my 11 year old son..."You are not the only one who has lost a parent". People are just so insensitive because they don't know and they should only realize how lucky they are to not be a member of this specialized club. I come back to this book often...when I need to feel not so alone.

Every human being should read this book. This is a friend for a person in the depths of grief over losing a loved one. This is a guide for people who want to better show up for someone who is grieving, a very helpful reminder that grief is not a problem to be fixed. Beautiful, honest, insightful, clear.

This book should be an instruction manual for Life, not only losing a loved one! The book feels so accurate in my feelings and experiences. It’s helpful and effective, even encouraging, in gaining understanding and validity, and the ability to move forward successfully. It has been the truest reflection of everything I have felt about my life and every issue I’ve been through. I’ve experienced childhood trauma, medical and emotional difficulties, and multiple family deaths, including the sudden, unexpected loss of my 54 year old husband. I’ve never found the support I truly need from family or friends, and I’ve seen poor therapists until only recently finding, through persistence, someone valid and supportive. What I’ve felt, what I’ve received as ‘support’ from people around me, the results… all of it put me in a terrible place, with me believing so much was my fault, I was a horrible person, and I could never pick up the pieces. But when you can finally feel that you are valid in your feelings and even understand those around you, you can begin to overcome; and even eventually help others overcome in their times of need. A couple times I’ve discussed with my therapist what I’m learning from the book to get her feedback and perspective, which is always positive, and also in hopes she’ll read it because anyone can gain insight from it. Quoted from the book: “Many grieving people feel like they’re on another planet, or wish they could go to one. Somewhere there are others like them. People who understand.”