by Mark Manson
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In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be positive all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. For decades we've been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F*ck positivity," Mark Manson says.
"Let's be honest, shit is f*cked, and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn't sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is - a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is his antidote to the coddling, let's-all-feel-good mind-set that has infected modern society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.
Manson makes the argument, backed by both academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited - "not everybody can be extraordinary; there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault". Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them.
Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can give a f*ck about, so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience.
A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.
In a world where the aim is often to accumulate more, be it material wealth, experiences, or happiness, Mark Manson introduces a bold, refreshing perspective in his book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. Straying away from conventional self-help advice that often emphasizes happiness as the ultimate goal, Manson suggests that life improves when we focus less on chasing positivity and more on embracing life's inevitable struggles. By redefining what truly matters, he presents a candid, no-nonsense approach that encourages readers to zero in on their priorities and, paradoxically, find greater fulfillment by accepting less.
Prioritizing what matters most allows for genuine satisfaction and authentic living. Embracing struggle and adversity can lead to personal growth and deeper insights. True happiness comes from focusing on meaningful values not temporary pleasures.
At its core The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck challenges the idea that more positivity leads to more happiness. Instead Manson posits that by being selective about the values we hold dear and the struggles we choose to engage with we can lead more meaningful lives. This approach dives deep into the notion that discomfort and adversity are essential elements of personal growth pushing readers to welcome the inevitable hardships that life throws their way rather than avoiding them.
Rather than perpetuating the idea that anyone can become a perfect version of themselves Manson emphasizes the power of embracing one’s limitations and practicing self-acceptance. In doing so he offers insight into why pursuing constantly positive experiences can backfire while accepting a spectrum of emotions and truths about oneself can be liberating. By sharing personal anecdotes and weaving in psychological research Manson illustrates how choosing to care wisely about certain experiences people and values can drastically improve one’s quality of life.
Readers are urged to detach from society’s expectations and identify what genuinely matters to them. Manson’s counterintuitive approach is both humorous and earnest rendering a guide that helps readers reevaluate their choices perceptions and inherent beliefs. Through stories historical references and raw honesty he provides a map for navigating life’s complexities by finding peace in detachment and simplicity.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck stands out for its raw unfiltered approach that liberates readers from societal pressures Giving permission to let go of superficial expectations it liberates its audience Manson’s integration of personal experiences with well-researched psychological insights adds depth and relatability His anecdotes bring about profound realizations while distilling professional expertise into understandable concepts Unlike traditional self-help books Manson’s direct style resonates with people tired of positivity overload His blunt honest storytelling mixed with humor provides a refreshing perspective that captivates and motivates readers with realism.
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Surprising well written and has enlightened me on my own value. I highly recommend this book for anyone wanting to a yard look at themselves and what they give a f@$^ about.
respond." I find a book with the F word in the title pretty hard to resist, which is why I chose to buy this one, even though I hate self-help books. The first few times I read the F word in the book, I smiled. Eventually, it stopped being funny. I think that several of the ideas in this book make sense, for example (p 7), "...we humans have the luxury of being able to have thoughts about our thoughts." Thinking about your thinking, I think, is an important part of good mental health. The author gives the example of situations involving a couple of musicians. One's less success than expected bothered him a lot, the other guy realized that things turned out well for him in spite of the fact that he was kicked out of the Beatles and replaced by Ringo. In fact, he provides lots of examples like this. He also debunks the whole Power of Positive Thinking concept, saying that all that positive thinking happens because we think that the way we are without those affirmations is somehow not okay. I'm not a proponent of affirmations, so I'm not sure I have an opinion on that. There are a few other concepts that I remember off the top of my head that are useful, that of having to work really hard to be really good at things (the 10,000 hours of Gladwell's Outliers), the fact that You Are Not Special (wish my acquaintances could say that about their kids and themselves), the fact that most struggle with mortality and although we all know we are going to die someday, we don't (can't) deal with that in a healthful way. It's not so much that I don't like the author's ideas or in your face writing style, it's more the fact that I find others' ideas more useful. For example, best book of all time on this subject: Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl. Content of the Subtle Art pales in comparison. Coming Home: Uncovering the Foundations of Psychological Well-being by Dr. Dicken Bettinger and Natasha Swerdloff is also better...but you have to have a certain level of background knowledge about this thinking about your thinking to "get" that book. Also, The Power of Meaning: Crafting a Life That Matters by Emily Esfahani Smith has a few flaws, but overall, is a really useful book that explains that searching for happiness is not the path to happiness. Doing good deeds will lead to happiness (as my existentialist son points out, we do nice things for people because it makes us feel good, a point about which I can't disagree). In summary, while the author makes a few good points in this over the top in your face sort of story, by the end, the novelty of excessive F Word usage wore off. A better book (besides the ones already mentioned) 10% Happier by Dan Harris. Entertaining, useful...and very few swear words.
Just finished reading this for the 2nd time, and I will officially say it has toppled “how to win friends and influence people” as my #1 recommended and gifted book and series. Talk about books that can help shift your perspective and change your life for the better.
This book came I pristine conditions. The color, the feel is absolutely stunning. The book itself is 10/10 if you’re looking for the tools to live a life with meaning and intent. This book is for you. I deal with anxiety/ depression and this book has helped me in the moments I feel least motivated. It is a great way at keeping your mind busy.
Interesting approach to life and attitude. Found it refreshing and insightful, and a quick read. Not sure if the f-word isn’t overused, but it does help to reinforce the author’s premises, good conclusion at the close, Glad I read it,
This book reads like your typical self-help book with many cuss words. It has some good examples, and gives some good advice.
I was expecting some good tips on how to stop people pleasing but what I found was a witty, thoughtful and deep approach to all of life that also makes you laugh as you go along for the ride. So glad I picked this up, don't let the F bombs deter you - worth a read!
Mark Manson’s book, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck,” presents a refreshing and unconventional approach to self-help, focusing on embracing life’s limitations and focusing on what truly matters. Here’s a detailed review: Pros: 1. Straightforward and Honest: Manson’s writing is blunt, humorous, and filled with profanity, which makes the book engaging and relatable. He doesn’t sugarcoat his advice, making it refreshingly honest. 2. Counterintuitive Approach: The book challenges the typical self-help narrative that promotes constant positivity. Instead, it emphasizes the importance of recognizing and accepting our limitations and flaws. 3. Practical Advice: Manson provides actionable steps for readers to apply his concepts in their lives. He encourages readers to focus on values and priorities that truly matter, rather than striving for constant happiness. 4. Engaging Stories: The book is filled with personal anecdotes, historical references, and humorous examples that illustrate Manson’s points effectively. These stories make the concepts more relatable and memorable. 5. Focus on Values: Manson highlights the importance of choosing values that are meaningful and rejecting those that are superficial. This focus on values helps readers identify what is truly important in their lives. Cons: 1. Profanity: The frequent use of profanity might be off-putting for some readers. While it adds to the book’s candid tone, it may not appeal to everyone. 2. Repetitive Themes: Some readers might find the themes repetitive as the book reinforces its core messages throughout. However, this repetition can also help solidify the concepts. 3. Pessimistic Tone: The book’s focus on embracing negative experiences and limitations might come across as pessimistic to some readers. It’s important to approach the book with an open mind to fully appreciate its perspective. Overall: “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson is a thought-provoking and entertaining read that challenges conventional self-help advice. Its honest, no-nonsense approach encourages readers to focus on what truly matters and let go of unnecessary worries. Despite some minor drawbacks like the use of profanity and a potentially pessimistic tone, the book’s practical advice and engaging storytelling make it a valuable addition to the self-help genre. - I personally like the profanity, lol!