There are very few books in life that have made such a profound impact on me, outside of the Bible, but this is one of them. To be honest I was a serious sceptic. My wife and I have been together 30 years now and we’ve been through it all but had reached a point where we couldn’t get out of the negative cycle it was killing us and our marriage. Me being the Anxious one I began searching for one last ditch effort to be “Happily Married”… Heard a podcast interview with Julie talking about the book. I got an audio copy and couldn’t stop listening!!! I binged it like a Netflix series watching the sun come up. All this to say, when I got to chapters 3 and 4 was like she had spent the past 30 years watching our marriage on video!!! She described everything about me but in such a way that I didn’t feel broken, abnormal, or lost. I now have the tools and understanding to make a difference. I “simply” applied the principles she taught and my wife began looking around like, “Who is this man!!!???” I began slowly saying things like “this isn’t us… “We’re better than the cycle…” It made her curious. I said I’ve been reading a book it’s turned my whole world upside down. If you’re interested I’d love to share with you what changed me so much. I don’t want to give all the details away but this is a must read for any couple. You’ll soon realize “The problem is not the problem!” It’s the cycle. I never quite understood attachment theory or EFT until now. The book has filled in all the blanks and provides a blueprint for how to immediately live it out in your marriage. I don’t think I’ve ever truly “seen” my wife (or myself) until now. We’ve got a long way to go and we’ll never be perfect but we can be secure!!! This book “Cracked the Code” and opened up a world of hope when there was none. Recently I ordered the hardcover so I can take better notes and last night had the opportunity to share the “gospel of Secure Love” with my son and his 6 month new bride… I only wish I had this book 30 years ago. Needless to say I gave them my copy and immediately ordered myself another it should be here in a few hours. If you’re a sceptic, like myself, I invite you to take a gamble on this book. You can thank me later.

I took many applications from this book. So much understanding i got about both my husband and myself. I really hope he reads it too. I highly recommend to anyone struggling with communicating to a partner who is just not understanding

This book is incredible. I have followed the author on Instagram for years and love her content. This book pulls together perfectly attachment theory and emotional based therapy — all in a way that is kind, honest, conversational, comforting. It’s easy to read with your partner and easy to understand. Highly recommend

I've read some really great couples books as well as some books on attachment theory. This was by far the best book I have read on couples work and attachment theory. Julie writes and explains things in a way that is easy to understand and incredibly helpful. I absolutely love her work. I highly recommended this book and all other forms of her work. This is book is one of those rare life-changing books.

What if I told you your relationship wasn’t flawed, but instead the flaw lies in all of the noise we are inundated with, dictating what our relationships are supposed to look like and what we are supposed to be getting out of them? We are often misguided in how we believe we should relate to one another, bombarded with misinformation that individuals must first be whole before they can be good to anyone else. What if instead “wholeness” exists in its purest form when we have a partner to help us navigate and co-regulate through life’s ups and downs? Want to know more about quieting the noise and existing in the love and support of a secure relationship, then this is the book for you! "Secure Love" by Julie Menanno skillfully navigates attachment theory within the context of marriage, offering SIMPLE and EASY actionable strategies for understanding and meeting each other's attachment needs. Through relatable anecdotes and insightful guidance, Julie illuminates how attachment styles manifest in relationships, empowering couples to cultivate deeper emotional connections and foster a sense of security and intimacy. This book is an indispensable resource for couples seeking to navigate the intricacies of attachment theory and cultivate a more fulfilling and resilient partnership. In over 20 years of reading and researching ways to strengthen marriage, never have I found a more useful tool than "Secure Love". It's as close as you'll get to an easy-to-read, easy-to-digest guidebook for marriage. Julie Menanno effortlessly explains attachment theory and how it shapes our interactions with our partners, influencing the overall health of our relationships. Through relatable examples and practical advice, this book illuminates ways in which partners can better understand each other's attachment needs, creating a deeper sense of connection and security. What resonated most with me was Menanno's emphasis on the importance of recognizing and honoring each other's attachment styles. By acknowledging our individual needs and vulnerabilities, my husband and I are beginning to cultivate a more compassionate and supportive partnership. This book has provided invaluable tools for navigating conflicts and strengthening our emotional bond. Implementing the concept of co-regulation has quickly brought about a positive shift in the way we relate. It's amazing how rapidly things can change just by implementing a few simple tools. On a recent family trip to NYC, my husband and I each finished reading “Secure Love” independently. During our drive home, we downloaded and listened to “Secure Love” on Audible, pausing briefly to discuss each chapter as it ended. I highly recommend this approach to anyone seeking their own secure relationship. Taking time to process the information first as individuals and then together, my husband and I both agree that it was almost as if we had read two separate books. Every once in a while, a book written so purely that you can draw what is needed at the time and later pick it back up and take away something completely different. “Secure Love” is one of those books. This is one of those books that facilitates continued learning based on current perspective. Who could ask for a better tool for their marriage than that? My husband and I have decided that in six months, we will repeat the process of reading the book alone and then listening to the audiobook together. We will probably adopt this practice indefinitely. Reading "Secure Love" felt like embarking on a journey of self-discovery and growth alongside my partner. Menanno's insights provided a roadmap for fostering a relationship grounded in trust, empathy, and mutual understanding. I highly recommend this book to any couple seeking to deepen their connection and cultivate a more secure and fulfilling relationship.