this is def my favorite self help book. if you struggle with boundaries or just want to improve this is definitely the book, the author explains and describes everything so simply and relatable for everyome

I’m always a bit skeptical when it comes to “self help” books. However, once I started reading this book, I couldn’t put it away. There are exercises at the end of each chapter for reflection. The book is thoughtfully laid out so that if time is an issue, as long as you have 30 minutes or so a day to set aside, you can easily accomplish the reading and the exercise. Personally, I set aside time in the morning and evening to read. It helps set the tone for my day and gives me peace at night to set anything that may be going on aside and time for self reflection. There is also a great self assessment quiz at the end to help identify how well you are in setting boundaries for yourself.

This book became my favorite book, it taught me so much about having boundaries in life and it taught me it’s ok to have boundaries whether it’s with your family, friends, work or anything. Great book

This book came to me highly recommended by a work colleague at a presentation on work-life balance and time management. I ordered it, but as someone who has done a lot of "work" these past 30+ years and has a fair bit of experience with setting and maintaining boundaries, I found little here to inspire me. The chapters and lists of techniques are fine, just a bit simplistic. Many of the pages are just lists in bullet point form. This could be very helpful for beginners, I think. But I really didn't need to learn reasons to say "no" to invitations I don't want to accept (for example)--I got that down. So I need to look elsewhere for a deeper dive on protecting my time and figuring out priorities in a job that could eat up my life 24/7 if I let it. I'm sure it's out there.

Disclaimer: I received an advance copy of this book as part of the launch team, but I was not required to write a positive review. My thoughts are my own. I wish I had the words to adequately express how much this book has helped me in my journey towards finding true peace and empowerment within myself. I grew up in a very enmeshed family where boundaries were completely non-existent. My impulse to do whatever I could to please everyone, and to try to be everything to everyone, was ingrained in me since birth. I gave pieces of myself away every day, and as I got older, I realized that I was empty. I had nothing left to give; but somehow, I just kept on giving. Around eighteen years old, I had an epiphany when I learned what 'codependency' and 'boundaries' were. It hit me like a ton of bricks: I needed boundaries in my life. This was terrifying to me, because even just the thought of saying 'no' to people would leave me with feelings of excruciating guilt and anxiety. I imagined it would be unbearable. I started to collect every book I could find on the subject of codependency and boundaries; and although I learned many new and enlightening things about these subjects, I still kept reverting back to old patterns. I had an understanding of codependency, and I knew I needed to start setting boundaries, but I still couldn't figure out how to do it. Last year, I discovered Nedra on Instagram. Every one of her posts were so on point. It was like, all this time, the lightbulb was dangling over my head, but her words finally switched it ON. I was ecstatic when I learned she was writing a book. I thought, "Well, if her book is anything like these posts, that is what I need!". I signed up to be a part of the book's launch team, and that was one of the best decisions I've made for myself in a very long time. The reason 'Set Boundaries, Find Peace' has been so much more helpful to me than all the other books I've read on boundaries, is that it is so clear and direct - which is exactly what Nedra explains you have to be when setting boundaries. The way the chapters are organized is very clean and simple, and the exercises really challenge you to connect with yourself, and get to the heart of the matter you're trying to work through. She emphasizes pushing through the feelings of guilt, and explains so concisely how guilt can trick us into believing we're doing something wrong simply by saying 'no', or asking for help. On page 252, she says, "Remember: there is no such thing as guilt-free boundary setting. If you want to minimize (not eliminate) guilt, change the way you think about the process. Stop thinking about boundaries as mean or wrong; start to believe they're a nonnegotiable part of healthy relationships, as well as a self-care and wellness practice." She also gives you the exact words to use when setting a certain boundary, and she doesn't leave anything to ambiguity. Not only does she include examples of real life scenarios where certain boundaries are necessary, she tells you precisely how to go about setting these boundaries in your own life. This is what every other book I'd read before was lacking. This is where the other books fell short. Nedra doesn't just give you the tools; she tells you, clearly and directly, how to use them. I am so grateful that I got to be a part of this book's launch team, and even though I wish this book existed years ago, I am so grateful that it exists in the world now. Give yourself one of the greatest gifts you ever could, and read this book. While I was reading it, there were times I had to put it down for a couple of days and really face some hard truths, but this is how we grow; this is how we ultimately find peace. We push through the tough stuff, and come out on the other side feeling more empowered than we ever thought possible; and this book will guide you through it, every step of the way.

Easy to follow along, I really liked how the book was broken .

This book was extremely helpful for a person who grew up in a household with lots of enmeshment and triangulation. It's a one stop shop for everything related to boundaries including figuring out what you would like your personal boundaries to be, how to enforce them, possible negative reactions from others while starting to assert boundaries, and maladaptive behaviors some people can fall into when first asserting their boundaries and how to spot and correct them. I especially appreciate the use of bullet points to present important information. It makes it quick and easy to review and reference.

This book breaks down boundaries into smaller doses and helps reduce your anxiety about setting boundaries ! It's really helped me! No one should feel guilty about having boundaries and we need to speak up for ourselves! This book helped me look at boundaries differently and I have felt a lot better since reading it.