Halfway through it and it’s very eye opening!

I was blessed to have found a good man in my early 20s who was - and still is - very supportive. We helped one another realize our (different) childhood traumas and then worked together to mature and overcome our parent's inadequacies as our frontal lobes developed. My mom isn't as bad as many of the examples in the book. She is mostly just against any emotions - feelings are icky and I wasn't to express them. My dad is a different beast, but I have been no-contact with him for over a decade so he is no longer of concern for me. It was nice to get some perspective and deeper understanding of my childhood and the repercussions I still work through today. When i read a particularly poignant passage I would highlight it and pass it to my husband so we could discuss it and what feelings I was having. I originally rented this from the library, but found it useful enough I decided to purchase a copy. I want to take some time after I have processed this to write some thoughts in a journal and needed something to reference back to. I also want to be able to refer to certain sections when I've had a particularly difficult interaction.

This is an easy read but very helpful. It was very affirming and enlightening. She writes in a very straightforward way that is easy to digest. This is a freeing book!

again, free therapy lol. I was able acknowledge how much my parents emotionally influenced me in multiple ways. These could subconscious patterns they developed as a child and continued as an adult/parent. I realize how much I may deal with things that can be emotionally immature as well. definitely a good one for self-improvement and validation on emotions you experienced as a child & still experience as a adult.

It was a quick read! Very interestingly put together, i finished it in 2 days! It has details that every person should know. It has short exercises that helped me know myself better. I would recommend it to every person especially if you are looking for emotional guidance.

This book was a real eye-opener for me. It helped me understand how emotionally immature parents can impact their children, even into adulthood. The examples felt relatable, and the advice was practical and easy to follow. It also gave me tools to start healing from my past and set better boundaries in my relationships now. I’d recommend it to anyone looking to better understand their upbringing and work towards emotional healing.

This is a fantastic book. My relationship with one of my parents has always had its issues, including manipulation, guilt, passive aggression, and more. However, I saw this as normal until I became an adult. I began to notice how my relationship with my parent was putting me at a disadvantage and was causing issues in other aspects of my life, including my relationships with others. My therapist recommended this book, and I am so happy she did because it has been incredibly helpful in understanding my emotionally immature and unavailable parent, helping to lessen the guilt that has been placed on me by said parent, and how to put firm and healthy boundaries in place.

I've always thought that my divorced parents exhibited emotional maturity, ( I thought that I coined the term until i found this book) and I was shocked to discover that this is actual a vast problem that's been studied. I found this book doing a search on the term and I found great insight into this parenting problem that exist between children and their parents. This huge imbalance of not receiving the proper nurturing and guidance, as a child because you're the adult in the room. The author quickly breaks down the reason it exists, the issues that you parent never dealt with and resolved prior to becoming a parent and lastly how it effects the empathic child. It also explains if you have siblings why they do not respond, process or interact with the parent(s) the same way as you do. I'm so glad that I purchased the book and I sent it to a friend already, another solider in this war. It's given powerful tools that I was able to put into play immediately to elevate my stress level in dealing with an aging parent. An easy read that jumps right into the issues and gives great solutions along the way. You are not alone.